A very thought-provoking incident happened to me a couple of weeks ago during a conversation with one of the recruiters our organization has been working closely with. Initially, our interaction was purely professional but over a period of time, we had bridged that professional gap and are now more friends than just two agencies who work together. Towards the end of the call, she said to me, “You really do not sound like someone who is into recruitment or HR per se! You are so chirpy, kind, and empathetic besides being a hardcore professional”. At that moment I felt really nice and truly special. Happy thoughts were running through my mind and I thanked her from the bottom of my heart for making me feel this way. But later, when I sat down and pondered, that’s when reality hit me hard…
Is it so tough for all those in the same profession as me, to be the same? Why the typecasts? Why are HR professionals considered as people who do not care? When did it become a rule that HR professionals have to be people with absolutely no sense of humor or empathy?
Seventeen years of work experience has allowed me to mingle with people from all walks of life. Admittedly, there are several people from a similar professional background as myself and have some of the edgiest and craziest sense of humor you could ever come across. But the moment they walk into their workplace, they seem to put that on airplane mode and become these somber, overtly serious professionals
A quick question in the Gen Z lingo: Why can’t we just chill and be ourselves?
Throughout our career graph, at some point, each of us has witnessed or attended workshops by a life coach or a career counselor. I personally have attended several (out of choice). One that I loved and thoroughly enjoyed was a profound session by one of the world’s leading life coach- Mr. Marshall Goldsmith at the ‘Great Place to Work’ conference in February this year in Mumbai. There, Mr. Goldsmith shared some very helpful insights about “Authenticity” and “Bringing our whole selves to work”. I wonder what it is that prevents us from doing the same? Of course, I’m not talking about cracking your best one-liners in the middle of a collective grievance, or fist-bumping as you walk into a serious discussion, there is always a time and place for everything. But we, as individuals, must take some time out, breathe, and let go of situations that we do not have a hold over.
Understand- “It is okay to not be in control all the time”. Easier said than done you may say… but where there is a will, there is always a way! Willingness to change oneself for the better plays a huge part here and it is definitely not impossible.
The word impossible also says “I’M POSSIBLE”. It’s all about perception!
We are people professionals and we certainly shouldn’t be ashamed of that. We should be relatable, human and a 100% authentic to be able to touch lives and gain the trust of our fellow employees. And to be able to do that, we need to have the ability to show them that we can be both light and dark, high and low, serious and outright silly! There is nothing that can be more satisfying than having a person you can laugh and joke with and who can make you smile at your workplace, a place that we can actually call our second home since we spend most of our productive hours there…
Food for thought: How amazing would it be if we become the best version of ourselves because we are both brilliantly insightful and totally human?